I must have lost my mind somewhere!

Met a guy at a speed dating party-never did one of those before.  We seemed to click but took our time meeting up to go out.  He was taking a summer class (seems way younger than me--got his degree three years ago).  About three weeks ago we met up and went out for dinner and just chilling (walking around downtown DC).  I did let him know my age (43) just to be honest with him and he seemed OK with it.  Since then I get emails with "Hi baby" or other cuteness or a few days go by with nothing.  I am beginning to feel like an afterthought.  Wrote me late last night telling he had his mom visiting. 

 OK, I get being a student and getting your life together and all the time that takes.  I know you can't make someone love you if they don't (apologies to Bonnie Raitt).  Someone told me I should ask him out but I have never had that work out (rejection each time except for my senior prom).   I wish I was better at this stuff but my dating history is sporadic.  I guess I have hit the friend zone and I actually would be OK with that if I actually know where I stand.  I have still gone out with other friends and on other events.  I learned to do that the hard way on my last serious relationship.

 Thanks for letting me rant.  All words of wisdom are welcome, though. ',2);" href="title:void(0);">

Thats a great post and question.  A lot of us guys find ourselves in this situation. You are right that there is no way to force someone to love you or care.  If he is young and busy, chances are he is not ready to focus.  If you can, roll with the punches and enjoy the time you spend together.  If you want more and dont want to waste time, drop him and start looking for someone else.  Let us know how it goes!  Thanks!

--------------------------------------------------------------
A Prairie Home Companion

Thanks, justaguy.  ',2);" href="title:void(0);">

Sure,being friends is cool and I am willing to roll with a few punches.   But admittedly, I would like to be in a relationship.  If it is not him, so be it.  I would also be honest with him (but nice about it) if I ended up going out with someone else-date, relationship or whatever. 

I guess the cute "hi baby" stuff i see on emails freaks me out a little.  It just does.  I haven't been in any kind of relationship in several years and everything seems weird. ',2);" href="title:void(0);">

Iam sure I will figure out how to handle this guy.  Thanks for your help.

I agree with both of you.  The dating scene now is much different with online.  But I have met some nice guys here.  No relationships yet, but good friends.  DCSurfgirl, maybe putting up a picture or two may help...at least here.  Good luck and hang in there.

--------------------------------------------------------------
Say hello

pam861 wrote: I agree with both of you. The dating scene now is much different with online. But I have met some nice guys here. No relationships yet, but good friends. DCSurfgirl, maybe putting up a picture or two may help...at least here. Good luck and hang in there.

 

I could not have said it better. 

--------------------------------------------------------------
Sassy

I ended it.  He emailed me about another woman he was getting serious about.  Oh, my head....